Monthly Archives: August 2015

Why I want fewer people in my life

on August 31, 2015 in Habits, Nonjudgment, Relationships

“Dude. Why don’t you take people’s numbers / email addresses?” At a video shoot last week, three people told me they wanted to follow up with me so I gave them my contact information. Immediately after the event, I wrote in my calendar to follow up, following my habit, “Schedule your follow-up when you email!” which I apply beyond email connections. After not hearing from them, I wrote my friend[…] Keep reading →

Non-judgmental Ethics Sunday: Can I Wear Jewelry If I Don’t Support Its Origins?

on August 30, 2015 in Ethicist, Nonjudgment

Continuing my series of alternative responses to the New York Times column, The Ethicists, looking at the consequences of one’s actions instead of imposing values on others, here is my take on today’s post, “Can I Wear Jewelry If I Don’t Support Its Origins?” When my mother passed away, I inherited an antique necklace made of carved ivory beads. I love the look of — and am sentimentally tied to —[…] Keep reading →

I’m lucky: I put on fat immediately and lose it slowly

on August 29, 2015 in Choosing/Decision-Making, Fitness, Freedom, Habits

“He’s so lucky! He never puts on weight!” “She’s so lucky! She loses weight so fast!” I hear people say things like that all the time. If I eat one unhealthy meal, I can see it on my belly. But then even after running a marathon I don’t see that fat go away. Fat goes on immediately and takes a long time and a lot of work to get off.[…] Keep reading →

Op/Ed Fridays: Drugs have won the drug war. New and different education can stop us losing.

on August 28, 2015 in Awareness, Models, Perception

Yesterday I saw yet another of countless articles showing how the U.S. government’s strategy on drugs promotes drug use, crime, government spending that decreases quality of life, etc. You’ve read the article in many formats before. This one’s headline was “Federal Drug Sentencing Laws Bring High Cost, Low Return: Penalty increases enacted in 1980s and 1990s have not reduced drug use or recidivism.” Sound familiar? You probably responded, “Yeah, in[…] Keep reading →

“I’m offended!” and “I’m outraged!” … What that means.

on August 27, 2015 in Awareness, Perception

“I’m offended by what you say!” “I’m outraged” People say things like this all the time. People who say things like that write a lot of opinion pieces in the media. I think they’re trying to communicate: “You did something wrong and I have the right to change you.” That’s not what they’re saying, despite their intent. They’re telling you their emotional state. That’s all. To the extent people prefer[…] Keep reading →

Schedule your follow-up when you email!

on August 26, 2015 in Habits, Tips

I just clicked send. My friend John is going to edit the article. When he sends it back I can submit it. I don’t have to think about it because I’ll know to act when I get his email. Have you ever missed a deadline this way? Or lost contact with someone? Or worried about when you’d hear back? Or forgotten about something important? Relying on your memory for following[…] Keep reading →

Leadership lessons from Frances Hesselbein, part 5/5

on August 25, 2015 in Exercises, Leadership, Relationships, Stories

“What do I say to a 99-year-old woman?” “What do I say to a famous person?” “What do I say to someone who could help my career without seeming selfish?” All I could think to ask was what it’s like to be 99, which seemed irrelevant and the same question people have asked her for a decade. I don’t like when people find out I don’t eat meat and ask[…] Keep reading →