[This post is part of a series on The Method to use The Model -- my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development -- which I find the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. If you don't see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you'll get more value than reading just this post.] Step 2, the Method's first active step, is to pick your direction, the key word being your. You will transform yourself based on your emotions, based on your wiring, meaning based on your values, meaning, and purpose. Not anyone else's. You already clarified your…

[This post is part of a series on The Method to use The Model -- my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development -- which I find the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. If you don't see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you'll get more value than reading just this post.] The Method's first two steps -- knowing your emotional system and understanding your current emotional cycles -- involve little action. They cover awareness. The appeal to act on a situation you want to change quickly and decisively can tempt you. I advise against it,…

[This post is part of a series on The Method to use The Model -- my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development -- which I find the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. If you don't see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you'll get more value than reading just this post.] The Method's zeroth step was a once-per-lifetime step. Once you understand your emotional cycle once, you can remember it all your life. Step 1 begins the preparation for each situation: to understand your current emotional cycle. That means understanding its elements -- the relevant…

[This post is part of a series on The Method to use The Model -- my model for the human emotional system designed for use in leadership, self-awareness, and general purpose professional and personal development -- which I find the most effective and valuable foundation for understanding yourself and others and improving your life. If you don't see a Table of Contents to the left, click here to view the series, where you'll get more value than reading just this post.] Today's post will be brief. The Method's zeroth step is to know your emotional system. I call it step zero instead of step one because you only have to do it once in your life. All the other steps you do once per transformation,…

This post is better covered by the series on The Method, where you'll get more value than reading just this post. Please click there instead. (I'm keeping the rest of this post for posterity). This post begins describing the Method, which is how to use the Model to lead yourself and others and to improve your life, in particular, using the elements you have voluntary control over. The Method, step by step Before anything else, the Method begins with you knowing your emotional system -- the foundation of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. You only have to learn it once in your life. From then on you may refine it or refresh your memory, but you won't have to re-learn that you have a consistent, reliable,…