Superman and picking up garbage

As you probably know, I pick up at least a piece of litter every day from the ground and put it in a trash can. I'm not reducing the amount of trash, but at least saving some from reaching the ocean. More importantly, I'm developing skills, experiences, and beliefs about changing culture around trash. Since restaurants and bars started serving outdoors on mostly single-use plastic, the amount of litter has skyrocketed. Every trash can in my neighborhood is filled to overflowing by around noon, spilling into the gutters soon after. People's slightest whim for, say, water instead of waiting an hour, leads to trash that will last centuries. I end up picking up ten or more pieces a day, just pieces in my path that…

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365: Assaulted again and scammed

Here are the notes I read from (maybe better just to listen): Yesterday two things, I'll start with second because more poignant. Ran into old friend a few weeks ago, clubbing, Submedia. Met at bar, first time since March, ready to walk away, wasn't going to order doof. But distant, outdoor, nearly empty. Talking for about an hour, a lot on how I transitioned. Talking about TV show. As an aside, he remarked knowing my regular background made stewardship more compelling and interesting than just tree hugger. While talking, some guy starts rooting through trash can on street, throwing trash everywhere. I remark, almost act. Then he starts yelling at us, threatening. Dave, fresh from kickboxing stands and advances toward. Guy points at me! throws…

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364: Joe De Sena, part 1: The Spartan Race: Resilience from effort

Joe DeSena founded the Spartan Race and hosts the Spartan Up podcast. For those who know about me and my burpees, cold showers, rowing a marathon, picking up garbage daily, and so on, you can imagine I love what he does. Joe has made it his mission to bring the emotional rewards of joy, service, happiness, resilience, grit, toughness, and all those things to the world by creating a culture and community that works for it. Some people expect tough means suffering, but I hope you'll catch what I found at the root of Joe's message and life, which is emotional and physical growth. I heard fun, connection, playfulness. Physical activity enables these things. It's not the goal. The meaning and purpose behind it and…

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I finish paying for the MBA I earned in 2005-06 tomorrow

In spring 2006, back when universities existed, I earned an MBA. Tomorrow I finish paying the last payment on my loan to pay for it. Its rate was something like one percent, so I didn't see a reason to pay early, but I still like the idea of paying off the last of my long-term debt. It takes a weight off my shoulders. By contrast, I paid off my higher-interest mortgage as soon as I could. I haven't shared this story of the three-week whirlwind from considering applying to starting class lately: I started at an Ivy League business school 23 days after deciding to apply. Here's how. It's one of my early applications of some of what I teach and coach in my book…

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363: General George Patton’s Speech to the Third Army

Here are the notes I read from for this episode. Following pattern of effective speeches and leadership to lead people to love doing things not obviously personally benefiting. If you've seen movie Patton, George C Scott delivers a shorter, cleaner, but better acted version. Compare what he's asking his men to do with what it takes to pollute less What is required of us in environmental stewardship is almost nothing in comparison. I'll read it, but translate while I'm reading it. The language is obviously of the time and would cause him to be canceled today except that he helped defeat Rommel and Hitler and save the free world from the Nazis taking over, which probably even the most offended person would value. Some parallels:…

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Looking for work? See me on Columbia Alumni’s panel: Navigating a Job Search in a Difficult Market

See me and other coaches from the Columbia Alumni Association on a panel: Columbia at Home: Navigating a Job Search in a Difficult Market. The event was July 22. Here is the video: https://youtu.be/DF1yNZUe8_k I mentioned my book, Initiative, so here's the link to it. Event notes How do you keep up your job search virtually and navigate a difficult job market? Career experts Caroline Ceniza-Levine '93BCJulia Harris-Wexler '83TC, '14BUSEric Horwitz '90CCJoshua Spodek '93CC, '96, '99GSAS, '06BUS of the Columbia Career Coaches Network (CCCN), share their top tips on preparing for the job search now and how to best market yourself. A Q&A session follows the panel discussion. The CCCN is a fee-based service of accredited professional alumni career coaches who want to help you…

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362: Nelson Mandela: “it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”

The actions we can take to preserve the environment are so simple anyone can do them. They improve our lives, connecting us to each other, freeing us from distraction of craving and separation. Role models help. Nelson Mandela worked harder and faced risks greater than any of us need to---if we even face any, since eating more fruits and vegetables and spending time with people close to us improve our lives. I bring to you the closing words of his speech at the close of his trial that led to the Apartheid government imprisoning him for 27 years: I have dedicated my life to this struggle of the African people. I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have…

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2020 in 9 words: “Everybody wants to be heard and nobody is listening.”

The title says it all. The words came out in conversation the other day. As I said them, they seemed remarkably accurate and poignant. I searched on the words and found no results. Everybody wants to be heard and nobody is listening. People are saying, "we're all in this together," "how are you holding up," "stay safe," and other repetitive phrases, but to my mind, this phrase captures this moment. Maybe you see otherwise, but from reactions to the virus to George Floyd to the elections to Black Lives Matter to you name it, everyone seems to want to say something they consider important---often the final word on the matter, at least in their opinion---but no one seems to want to make others feel heard…

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The Packaged Food Challenge: See me with Joe De Sena on Spartan Up!

I've written and recorded about my wonderful and challenging experiences with the Spartan Race and its founder Joe De Sena. He hosted me on his podcast, Spartan Up! I've found him and the community inspirational. I found his reflections in the video below before and after our conversation thoughtful and yet more inspirational. Where many people see the work and discomfort in personal challenge and push back, Joe sees opportunity to learn about himself and live more by his values. He's trained himself to live this way for decades. The result: a supportive, friendly community, a successful business, fitness, and he looks pretty happy. https://youtu.be/hP5h9rpd6Jo Also, check out my thoughts after a weekend on Joe's farm: 360: Sparta could make historyMore tired than in years…

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361: George Chmiel, part 1: Why run 3,000 miles? Why challenge yourself?

George and I talked about three big topics George Floyd demonstrations and riots from the view of a man watching his businesses and his communities' businesses vandalized and destroyed. You'll also hear him reflect as a man who dismissed Colin Kaepernick---in his view disrespecting the flag.Why did he have that view? For supporting veterans, especially veteran suicide, through incredible runs---ultramarathons, 100-mile-plus runs, and longer. The more he ran for others, the more rewarding it became, to where he ran across the country through injury.We talked about finding your limits, serving others, and how much each helps your life. My key takeaway: that he got more out of his challenges than he put into them, for serving others. He explained better than I why I act…

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360: Sparta could make history

Here are the notes I read from on recounting the potential I saw for the Spartan Race community and its founder, Joe De Sena, if they chose to prioritize environmental stewardship. Context: Joe: carries chain up 1,000-foot hill, brings others withhim, invites people to climb hill for 24 hours, leads to SpartanRun.Brings people up to carry boulders up steep hill, which they pay to do.Community: Integrity, personal motivation, fun, supportiveTasks: Learn about yourself, great joy, striving, constantly improving They understand the mental and physical side, learning, growing, deeper satisfaction and reward than cookies and ice cream.Got me to go to Vermont and run up and down hill seven times.Environment: abysmal: trash, doof, little fruits and vegetables, bottles, ignoring well water, no natural fibersTexts from kidsBut…

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More tired than in years
After I finished running a marathon. This picture came hours after finishing, meaning I had already recovered a bunch.

More tired than in years

I don't remember the last time I was this tired, so I hope you'll pardon me keeping it short. Wednesday I swam across the Hudson River, about 1 km across, though the current took us from across from about 70th Street to 35th Street. The distance the current took us didn't tire me, but I walked to 39th Street from home and from 35th Street home. I take cold showers every fifth day (days that are multiples of five), so I took a cold shower too. Thursday I rested. Friday I lifted in the morning, walked two miles to Grand Central carrying bags, met a friend to drive to Joe De Sena's Vermont farm, where I climbed so-called Mount Sparta, about 1.5 - 2 miles…

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“Do men have emotions?”, she asked.

I gave a book on men and how men experience the world to my girlfriend at the time, maybe five or ten years ago. After reading it, she asked me, "Do men have emotions?" Apparently she thought men didn't have emotions. In fact, she clarified, "I thought men just did things." I'm glad she asked if she didn't know. I was surprised she didn't. For context, she had graduated a top university and was preparing for graduate school, which she has since graduated from. She wasn't holed away in a monastery. You would have seen her as a regular person. The mind reels at what could have created this situation and its ramifications. For what created this situation, what about our educational system and culture…

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Greetings from Sparta

Interviewing Joe De Sena for the podcast led to each of us inspiring each other, which led to friendship, which led to him inviting me to his Vermont farm, which is where I am. Joe founded The Spartan Race, an obstacle course that grew a movement. This picture illustrates the community. Several people I told I was coming up here knew about this farm and said, "You're doing the Death Race?" But this weekend is an invitation-only, non-Death Race. There's a 900-foot hill next to the property with steep, rocky paths. Starting noon tomorrow, people will do laps on it for 24 hours. They bring headlamps for nighttime, as well as what food, water, and other equipment they need. How I inspired Joe: His episode…

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A reader asks: how much money is enough to spend?

Following my request for questions, a reader asked one I wouldn't have expected: How much time and money is enough, or fair, to spend with your wife and children if you need to work to have money for a simple life, in your country? First a caveat: I'll plead some ignorance never having married. For that matter, my biological parents divorced around when I was in nursery school. On the other hand, my mom's second marriage is into its fifth decade and my father's into its second or third. Also, I've been in relationships that lasted longer than some friend's marriages, though we never shared bank accounts, real estate, or anything big, nor had kids. I'll also note the question didn't ask how much to…

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Should NYU-Tisch change its name?

Many institutions are changing their names, dropping connections to "benefactors" whose practices they no longer accept---slaveholders, opiate pushers, etc. Municipalities are taking down statues of slave traders and the like. NYU prides itself as promoting social justice, yet what of Tisch? NYU-Tisch is its school of the arts and one of its most prestigious schools. I love the place---the first NYU school I taught in, specifically the Interactive Telecommunications Program. The students and I---with MTA's Arts for Transit program, and the first company I co-founded, Submedia---created this big public art piece: https://youtu.be/wIfi71_ffG0 Below is just the kids and family from that video. https://youtu.be/anwg1BhkAFU Who is NYU-Tisch named for? According to the New York Times in 1982, "New York University's School of the Arts has been…

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See my webinars on Initiative to Wharton and U. of Chicago Business School alumni.

I recently spoke online to alumni groups from the Wharton and University of Chicago business schools on developing initiative, specifically from my book, Initiative. Here are reviews from NYU students who did the exercises I describe in them. I asked if I could share the videos from the webinars. Here they are. As I say in them, I designed them to give you enough to work with on your own. The book is more comprehensive. Contact me if you're looking for yet more, like coaching. The University of Chicago Business School webinar https://youtu.be/k1pSmCyq8RQ The Wharton webinar and announcement https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xStDgI3odiY

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When facts influence, when they make people dig in.

People with causes often share facts to influence others. Sometimes the facts work, sometimes they annoy the other person, even when that person could use the fact. I figured out why, or at least one reason. When people feel powerless information makes them feel ashamed, frustrated, and the like. Since they feel they can't do anything, they see the information as highlighting the problem and makes them feel bad. They'll tend to want you to go away. They'll perceive you as misunderstanding them and therefore as having no useful reason to share. When they feel powerful, information motivates them. They'll tend to seek out more information the more they want to feel motivated. The patterns seems to apply to many areas in life---fitness, education, starting…

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359: Jaime Casap, part 1: Google’s Global Education Evangelist

"Don't ask kids what they want to be when they grow up. Ask them what problem they want to solve." Jaime explains what his title of Google's "Education Evangelist" means, how he got it, and how it results in him advancing education globally. We talk about education when student-driven, how that paradigm differs from what nearly all schools now do. Also how it is everywhere in life. He gives an insider's view of Google, how it reacted and transitioned from the pandemic, physically on the inside of its buildings. The most exciting part of the conversation comes at the end, when our conflicting views on the environment, the future, and technology build to a crescendo of disagreement, but also curiosity, but not checkmating each other.…

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What “recyclable,” “recycled,” and “compostable” mean

Most of the pollution in a product happens upstream of what you buy or use. Anything single-use wastes resources before you handle it. Recycling barely reduces a thing's waste relative to not using it. Likewise, once something is made, especially plastic, it will exist for a long time. Future generations will have to deal with it. The more you reduce, the more you realize you don't need things. Why do places label their unnecessary packaging recyclable and reusable so prominently? Because people will buy. You think Trader Joe's hadn't market researched labeling their bags like below? Trader Joe's business model is based on packaging things. Operationally, it makes them money by reducing the need for people. From a human perspective, the business is designed to…

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What “net zero” and “closed loop” mean.

When I see or hear the terms "net zero" and "closed loop" the context is nearly always a polluting company or person trying to justify pollution as not pollution. The terms describe creative accounting applied to pollution, where instead of people losing money, our environment loses the ability to sustain life and human society. I've linked to Decoupling Debunked before. It describes the terms' deception and I recommend it. In the meantime, buy less stuff. Wikipedia's description of creative accounting describes "net zero" and "closed loop" in spirit. You need to change only a few words: Creative accounting is a euphemism referring to accounting practices that may follow the letter of the rules of standard accounting practices, but deviate from the spirit of those rules…

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358: Bald Versus Plastic

Here are the notes I read this episode from: People keep acting like I'm different, that they have to balance things that I don't when acting on the environment. So I'll share a recent decision I made. People I tell have sounded intrigued and delighted to hear it so I'll share with you. First sensed hairline retreating at 19. Not much for maybe a decade following, I don't remember. Maybe 10 years ago started using minoxidil. Don't know if works or not, but used as insurance. Not insanely expensive. Tested on thinning in back, so even less sure if it works. Over the past few years noticed it becoming my greatest plastic consumption. Thought more about stopping. Even stopping flying was reversible. Never decided to…

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Reader questions

I've meant for years to post to solicit questions from readers. You know you have questions about something I cover---burpees, leadership, entrepreneurship, education, stewardship, swimming across the Hudson River, posting daily, etc. Contact me here. When I meet people in person or email one-on-one, people say they've wanted to know something about me or what I write. I'll keep names discrete if requested.

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The 21st Century: dozens of ways to communicate . . . and all of them break.

I've lost track of how many times I've had to say it, but some weeks close to daily: The twenty-first century means there are dozens of ways to communicate with someone . . . and all of them break. I hope you've experienced more success, but I've faced connections dropping, sound not working, people unable to connect, . . . do I have to list every failing? Have you experienced it too?

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357: Steven Pressfield: The War of Art and Nature

Steven Pressfield's War of Art is a perennial bestseller. If you haven't read it, I recommend reading it, even if you delay listening to this podcast. Well, listen to this episode since it will prepare you. Before I read it, I could not have imagined someone writing it. I can't think of another book like it. It's helped countless people start acting on passions. Steven shares how the book emerged---things you won't get from just reading it. After we finished recording, he told me how he shared new things in this episode and he's appeared on many podcasts. I also commented on how the resistance he described to the individual on the verge of creating translates almost perfectly to two places, the individual acting on…

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