Surprises returning home

I returned home Monday. I've pointed out a few things that surprised me. I found the culture shock greater after this three-month than after longer times away. The clarity of the air. Crossing the George Washington Bridge into Manhattan, I could see the World Trade Center more clearly than I remember. Still, the air isn't clean, just cleaner.Few people. The city isn't empty, but it feels as depopulated as during major holidays. Few cars in the street too.More litter than ever. I presume the city reduced paying some people who clean up litter.I suspect people are littering more. People look resigned.About 30% compliance wearing masks. I would have expected higher.Outside the city, birdsong woke me most mornings. I thought I'd hear less bird noises here.…

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346: Julie Margretta Wilson: Covid-19 devastating education

Education and learning, not just scoring higher on tests, is at the core of my leadership practice. Today I bring a luminary of education work, Julie Wilson. As hyper-educated person who late in life, in my 40s, learned that doing well in school didn't mean success in life, especially in an educational system based on coercion and compliance. I came to see learning social and emotional skills improved my life more and solved our greatest problems. Covid-19 is one of our greatest problems, affecting education more than nearly any other field. Partly it's affecting our brittle, non-resilient educational bureaucracies, which differ from teaching students. It's also affecting learning now and for an unknown time to come. I wanted to talk about self-directed education and we…

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Habits create a lifestyle: Hear me on the Style Your Life podcast

Erin and Michelle host the Style Your Life podcast. They wanted to learn and share with their audience about habits, which are the foundation of a lifestyle. They can be if you choose. They led a conversation around habits and how to keep from quitting them. I talk and write a lot about habits and sidchas here. This conversation is a friendly, non-intense entry point. Few things improve a life more than starting and keeping effective habits and sidchas based on your values. Listen to the conversation. EDIT: Erin and Michelle posted the video recording: https://youtu.be/AFGWPHwT9Zs Listen to the conversation.

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Watch UNICEF’s 2020 World Environment Day Panel Discussion, which included me

Want to learn from amazing people who act, not just talk, on nature and sustainability? Watch UNICEF's 2020 World Environment Day Panel Discussion. How can the Covid-19 crisis be a catalyst for sustainability and climate action at home/work?Environment Top Responders is a group of selected experts, champions, activists and influencers in the New York sustainability space who were invited by the UNICEF New York Staff Association Green Team to discuss sustainability and climate action efforts post the COVID-19 crisis. https://youtu.be/qIjW-KV5JVU I felt honored to participate in one of the most inspirational group of panelists I've been on. Everybody acted personally to influence their community. So many people talk about change. Everyone here acted. Thank you, UNICEF, for organizing and hosting! The panelists Joshua Spodek (Leadership…

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The advice I shouldn’t have taken from a black friend on talking about race

Context Before starting the Leadership and the Environment podcast, I gave a series of talks on environmental action at NYU---my first foray into applying leadership to the environment. By then I had experimented enough an practicing stewardship to have experienced the joy that it brought. I felt compelled to share my results and how to act on them. Every would-be leader of any renown I'd heard speak on the environment presented action as deprivation, sacrifice---a burden, a chore. Before my results, I couldn't promote action if I considered the cure worse than the disease. As far as I can tell, every would-be leader still considers stewardship deprivation, sacrifice---a burden, a chore. They're leading people not to act! Action In these talks I related acting on…

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The habit myths that lead you to quit

Over and over books and people advising how to bring habits to your life focus on the wrong place---the start. They talk about starting simple, looking for triggers, making it obvious, making it rewarding, and other things to start. While if you don't start you can't continue, plenty of people start. They don't finish. They've ingrained these ideas so much that even people who attend my seminars miss the important points of how to create habits so that you don't stop them. The challenge isn't starting, it's not stopping. An attendee wrote up the experience in the Herald Scotland (my first appearance I know if in a Scottish paper). First, I'll write what she wrote, then my refinement with a link to the webinar. She…

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A video about the idiocy of perpetual growth

In physics, if your theory predicts one thing but nature does another, we know nature is right and we change our theory. In economics, if nature doesn't fit theory, they stick with the theory and try to describe how nature is wrong. Sadly, economists don't lose their jobs when their theories don't work and they keep trying to push them, despite not creating the results they want. On the contrary, many of them gain influence from their peers, journalists, and politicians. Many of them, for example, believe economic growth will solve nearly any economic problem---disparities in wealth, poverty, and so on. They don't see growth often exacerbating these problems, however obvious. Sadly, many politicians, journalists, and peers follow their advice. I found a video that…

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345: Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll, part 3: Drugs

Here are the notes for the introduction I read for this episode: This episode covers a few big experiences that led to my dedication and intensity, starting from sports, my relationship with my father, acting lessons, and various highs and lows. The intriguing stuff about drugs comes about two-thirds through. Since recording this episode, I've asked a bunch of people their thoughts on sharing about taking them. I guess I'm behind the times that I still think sharing doing something illegal was a problem, but everyone talks about how normal it is to talk about, citing Michael Pollan, Joe Rogan, Sam Harris, Snoop Dogg, and so on. What's wrong with our laws that they're this out of touch with society? Dov starts asking me about…

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344: My Race Background

Race is a major topic since police killed George Floyd in custody. I consider one of the major problems that people don't feel heard or understood. I see virtually no one in authority showing that they are listening. A friend who is white share some of how she is struggling. I shared my background regarding race. She said I should share that background. I shared it with others. They agreed. This episode shares my experiences regarding race---a loose collection of memories. One person said hearing my details helped him think about his, which was my goal: to help people express themselves. I start from my earliest memories through grade school, high school, graduate school, starting companies, and recent reflections.

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343: Chad Pregracke: One River, One Piece of Garbage at a Time

Many people suggest people as guests who are doing "environmental things". They don't know my strategy with this podcast, which I describe in my solo episode Clarifying my strategy. The crux is that I focus on leadership and bringing leaders to the environment before focusing on the environment. I consider our behavior the problem to change. Environmental degradation results from behavior. Most people are trying to make some process more efficient, like making cars electric or use less plastic in some process. That's management. It accepts the values of a system that pollutes, and generally augmenting and accelerating it: Uber doesn't decrease miles driven. It increases it. Chad started Living Lands and Waters, a non-profit where people get in the river and clean garbage. It…

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Introducing Miko Lau’s 26 Days to Greatness Challenge

As a longtime entrepreneur---having co-founded my first company in 1996---I like supporting new entrepreneurs. Few who contact me show genuineness and authenticity to match their aspirations. Occasionally one does. Miko Lau contacted me a few months ago with a challenge she gave herself to assemble 25 experts to teach a cohort including herself the best they knew. She contacted me about teaching the leadership part. While my schedule didn't work out, I will appear in the podcasts that follow the month of training she is making available. If the invitation below looks appealing, click the links in it to register. To clarify, I have no financial or other interest in the project, only that I believe that for readers of mine looking to join a…

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Should we make stupid shit illegal?
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Should we make stupid shit illegal?

To clarify, I'm not serious about the following, as implementing it except by a democratic process people considered fair, but I consider it worth talking about. Sometimes crazy, impractical ideas spark useful, practical ones. Should we make stupid shit illegal? We make drunk driving and selling cigarettes to children illegal and no one complains they're evidence of a nanny state. How about doof? People can't stop buying and gorging on food engineered around craving, where its pleasure comes from salt, sugar, fat, convenience, and novelty. I don't care if people's habits burden them, but the CDC reports heart disease, diabetes, and obesity cost us more than half a trillion dollars per year. Enjoy Coca-cola! How crazy is it to consider beyond taxing sodas, making doof…

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342: Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll, part 2: Sex

For background, first listen to my first Sex, Drug, and Rock and Roll episode, part 1: Rock and Roll,  how Bruce Springsteen's Broadway show motivated me at last to share some episodes about me. Listeners have asked to know me. I tried to put myself in the background, considering leadership and nature the important parts of the podcast, as well as the guests. Bruce sharing personal stories showed me the value of sharing, in his case about the man behind the music and in mine the man behind the podcast. In that episode, I committed to sharing more about myself and sank my ships, so, like Cortes, I couldn't retreat. Still, weeks passed without sharing. I shared my fear to act with leadership guru and…

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The New Right Network hosted me for its Environment Town Hall. Watch the Video.

Few associate environmental action with the American political right. Many think that community doesn't care about clean air, water, and land. I don't buy it. I think they care as much as anyone. How they act is another story, but I see almost no one on the American political left acting any more. I believe politics has made a wedge issue out of something everyone cares about, leading one side to smugly say they're right while not acting, while the other says, "you're telling us what to do buy you aren't doing it yourselves," so nobody acts and everyone feels self-righteous. Rob Harper and I have been recording conversations regularly on the lockdown, which leads us to talk about politics around the environment. Before then,…

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Why are we blind to sexism hurting men, take 4: Central Park false accusation

Following three previous posts here Why are we so blind to sexism that hurts men and boys?Philadelphia and Starbucks: How blind are we to sexism hurting men?More missing sexism when it hurts men and countless incidents in life, here is yet another story with blatant sexism largely unremarked on. To be sure, some remark on it, but far from how much they recognize the racism. The New York Times covered the story in White Woman Is Fired After Calling Police on Black Man in Central Park. Here's the video: https://youtu.be/h6eJmRJHq4k Note the subtitle: Video of the incident touched off intense discussions about the history of black people being falsely reported to the police. Yes, blacks are falsely reported. So are men! The article calls out…

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341: NFL Tight End Chris Manhertz, part 1: Making your dreams happen

I love talking to professional athletes. Today I talk with Chris Manhertz, a tight end in the NFL with the Carolina Panthers. We cover three main things and partly a fourth. Making the NFL never having competed in football. He played basketball in college, but made it, now five seasons in. I'd call it a dream come true except for the work it takes to make happen.Playing during a pandemic. Sports are hit as hard as anything. Athletes reach their potential. How is he responding? How can we all respond?The environment, of course.We just touch on philosophy and stoicism, which we'll cover more in our next conversation. If you want to reach your potential, people like Chris Manhertz help. I hope the audio picked up…

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The Heroes of New York podcast hosted me

The Heroes of New York podcast host Anu Senan posted our conversation. The show features people who show exemplary behavior in the epicenter of the epicenter. She liked the episode enough to invited me for a second episode (EDIT: here's the second episode: Heroes of New York, episode 2: Doing meaningful things, a conversation on change), so I think you'll like it too. See the show notes below for details. Listen to the episode. Show notes "Prison life is about routine: each day like the one before; each week like the one before it, so that the months and years blend into each other." Nelson Mandela about the 27 years he spent in prison. Mandela believed a lifetime's habit of exercise helped him to survive…

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Elon Musk isn’t helping nature

People keep citing Elon Musk as helping the environment. As best I can tell, most things he does harm the environment---that is, they lower the earth's ability to sustain life and human society. He might think he's helping, but I see the pattern going the other way, as I described in my podcast post and episode, Technology won't solve environmental issues and you know it. One electric car compared to an internal combustion engine car saves fuel, but he wants to sell as many as possible. His overall strategy increases overall consumption, just as the Watt steam engine led to more coal use despite being more efficiency, just as Uber increases miles driven and congestion. Speaking of transportation, on public transit he said: I think…

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My reflection on an exercise assigned me: Drinking a Hot Beverage Without Judgment
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My reflection on an exercise assigned me: Drinking a Hot Beverage Without Judgment

A friend recommended to me an exercise I hadn't heard of. It sounds like the Three Raisins exercise I learned from Jon Kabat-Zinn, included in my leadership book, and assign in my leadership class. She didn't explain much about it, but my experience with experiential exercises told me that doing it would reveal more than any explanation. The exercise The instructions: Drink a hot beverage and when I think judgmental thoughts like, "it's too hot" or "it's too strong", switch to thinking descriptive thoughts. The instructions didn't suggest much to expect, but it didn't look too hard either. I just finished the exercise. What I did Since I drink nearly only water, I didn't know what to drink. I went to the kitchen figuring I'd…

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Americans mistake

Americans mistake entitlement for luxury comfort and convenience for happiness effort for misery flying for adventure pleasure for emotional reward upvotes for friendship social media for community video games for fun takeout for culture cheap for value volume for quality test scores for knowledge etc and wonder why so many end up addicted to opiates, sugar, etc. The observation probably applies to many modern cultures, but I'm here in the US, seeing all the garbage by the side of the road---beer cans more than anything else, so they're drinking and driving. We can do better.

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An attendee’s stellar review of my webinar: Life-Changing Habits Even (Especially) Under Lock-Down

An attendee of my webinar, Life-Changing Habits Even (Especially) Under Lock-Down, wrote how it affected her life already (spoiler: positively, beyond expectations, and in areas she had plateaued). Read her email below. Below the email I link to her writing. So you can experience the webinar too, here's the video of it: https://youtu.be/BfnO0nQSuPk Dear Josh,  Thank you so much for your email and for connecting with me further. In response to your invitation: Webinar I thought that the webinar was excellent---thank you for inviting me. I got so many insights from it but the number one most important gift it gave me was the concept of mental freedom. I must admit that I didn't have a lightbulb moment during the webinar, I'd heard the discipline…

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Habits aren’t my thing, despite what you might think

I want to clarify a point of confusion, probably my fault. Since I talk a lot about sidchas and habits, one could conclude that I focus on habits as a big part of my life. On the contrary, though I consider them important, they are less a big part of my life than they make worry and insecurity a small part of my life. For clients that come to me for them, I focus some of my coaching on them. Even then, the goal is to make them automatic---a source of mental freedom. Someone today suggested that I must be a blogger, as in a big part of my identity, since I blog daily. I said that would make me a tooth brusher since I…

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340: Michael Turner, DDS, MD: On the front line of Covid-19 in New York City

Want inside views of covid-19 in the epicenter of the epicenter? Michael has been working at the front line of Covid-19 in New York City. He's also my brother-in-law who has known me since the 80s. I started the pattern of bringing people to share inside views of my work with my mom's episode, which I encourage you to listen to. He shares inside views on the flaws and weaknesses of both. He starts by sharing stories only surgeons can---for example, of saving someone's life on an airplane. You know in movies when the plane captain asks if there's a doctor on board? It happened to Michael when he was the only doctor on the flight---then just starting. He says he didn't fully save a…

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